Instead of Complaining, Chant Daimoku
When we complain, we often feel that we are right and others are wrong. We begin to look down on others, become angry and frustrated, and the more we dwell on these negative thoughts, the worse we feel. Before long, we lose the motivation to do what really needs to be done and find ourselves trapped in a vicious cycle.
Chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo, on the other hand, strengthens our life force and develops our wisdom. Wisdom enables us to view situations fairly and objectively. A strong life condition frees us from feeling oppressed by circumstances. The stronger our life state becomes, the less we are swayed by problems.
Complaining can easily lead to misunderstandings and unnecessary conflict. Therefore, before expressing dissatisfaction, it is far better to chant abundant daimoku with earnest prayer to the Gohonzon. Very often, after chanting sincerely and deeply, we discover that the need to complain simply disappears. Instead, we find the wisdom and courage to move forward.
Instead of Criticizing, Polish Yourself
When we point a finger at someone, the other three fingers point back at ourselves. This is a powerful reminder that before criticizing others, we should first examine ourselves—not just once, but repeatedly.
No one is perfect. Every person has both strengths and weaknesses. When we recognize our own shortcomings, we naturally become more understanding and less judgmental toward others.
Shakyamuni Buddha taught that we should learn from the mistakes of those who have gone before us. In other words, what happens to others can serve as a valuable lesson and warning for ourselves.
A truly humble person does not spend time criticizing others but continually strives for self-improvement. Those who habitually criticize others often do so out of arrogance or self-importance, blaming others more readily than themselves. Rather than finding fault with others, let us challenge ourselves to grow and become better human beings.
Instead of Worrying Alone, Seek Guidance
Keeping all our worries and suffering locked inside our hearts can be extremely painful. Many of us have experienced how simply talking to someone we trust can bring tremendous relief.
That is why we are encouraged to seek out someone we can speak with openly and honestly. Senior leaders in faith have accumulated years of Buddhist practice, personal experience, and guidance from Ikeda Sensei and Nichiren Daishonin. Their encouragement can help us become stronger and inspire us to advance courageously through any challenge.
Always remember that you are never fighting alone. Within the Soka family, there are many fellow members who sincerely wish to support and encourage you. Leaders are also constantly reminded to treat personal matters with the strictest confidentiality, so you can speak with confidence and peace of mind.
Rather than silently enduring your struggles by yourself, reach out to someone you trust. In the Soka family, there is always someone willing to listen and walk alongside you.
Instead of Worrying, Take Action
Much of our worry stems from a lack of courage, and excessive worrying robs us of joy and confidence. In Nichiren Buddhism, Faith, Practice, and Study nurture hope, courage, and self-confidence.
Some people naturally worry too much. While being careful and prudent is important, excessive caution can prevent us from taking the very steps needed to move forward. We may become so preoccupied with possible failure that we never begin.
When faced with difficulties or important decisions, the first step is to chant abundant daimoku to the Gohonzon with sincere determination. Then, take action.
Faith without practice or action will never transform our circumstances. Just as a blueprint alone can never become a building, our prayers must be accompanied by concrete efforts. Only by acting can we discover what works, learn from experience, and continue improving. As the saying goes, “Practice makes perfect.”
Nichiren Daishonin’s Buddhism is a practical philosophy of life. Knowledge alone is not enough—it must be put into action. Do not be afraid of making mistakes. As long as faith remains your foundation, with the Gohonzon and this profound philosophy of life to guide you, you will always find the best path forward and continue enriching your life.
